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Hello, I'm male 19, I want to clear all my doubts over masturbation. So I come from a religious background and once embarrassed too much by my dad for reading sexpert in 11th standard. I was always stayed away from watching porn as I thought it was evil. I hated my friends who watched porn. As I started getting matured, I realized there is nothing wrong in watching porn. I started watching porn and it didn't excite me like it did for my friends. So coming back to masturbation, I know its healthy and other stuff but I don't ejaculate when I tried it. I do get night falls and are sometimes painful and sometimes refreshing. Is there something wrong if I don't masturbate like my other friends who regularly do ? I don't get night falls regularly. Also I have too much of foreskin which pains when i try to pull it back when erected. Should I go to a doctor ? Is there a psychological issue due to my religious background ? Please help.

asked Nov 03 '14 at 00:25

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See your doctor about your painful foreskin. If there is anything medically wrong, it can be fixed easily and will be fine after a doctor evaluates your foreskin. When you see your doctor, explain that your nightfalls (nocturnal emissions) have occasionally been painful. This is information your doctor should have since nightfalls aren't usually painful.

It is fine if you do not masturbate. It is also fine if you masturbate and enjoy it without ejaculating. Do not worry about your normal sexual feelings and behaviors. As you continue through life you may evolve your sexual feelings and behaviors. This is normal.

Your religious upbringing may have created guilt, shame, and anxiety about sex and masturbation. When you find the right person you will want to feel happy and enjoy sex. Read recommended books about human sexuality. These can inform you. Informative books can also help you realize that your religious upbringing had an unfortunate side effect of making you unhealthily worried about sex. As you grow older you will have many opportunities to independently make up your own mind on many matters, including sex, masturbation, and porn.


answered Nov 04 '14 at 20:42

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Very well written!

(Nov 05 '14 at 14:25) karijoh ♦♦ karijoh's gravatar image

Thank you very much, karijoh!

(Nov 05 '14 at 18:05) Monica902 ♦ Monica902's gravatar image

Had you been masturbating regularly, your foreskin would have become retractable by now. The act of masturbation where you grip your penis and stroke it up and down stretches the foreskin gradually so that it eventually becomes stretchable enough to comfortably retract. Masturbating regularly should solve your problem.


answered Nov 06 '14 at 09:43

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edited Nov 06 '14 at 10:23


Good suggestion, tuhinpaul!

(Nov 06 '14 at 19:00) Monica902 ♦ Monica902's gravatar image

Tuhinpaul is right that gentle masturbation may help your prepuce (foreskin) move freely. If it doesn't, see a doctor and don't worry because doctors have multiple simple options to help.

Usually a man's prepuce will become fully retractable before or during adolescence. There are some minor, easily fixable medical conditions that could cause an adult male's prepuce to be non-retractable. One is called frenulum breve, another is called phimosis, and a third is called an adhesion.

Be cautious if you have sex with a non-retractable prepuce; if you have frenulum breve, you don't want any scarring from a torn frenulum. If sex is painful, then be less vigorous so it doesn't hurt and talk to a doctor. Also, if your prepuce is non-retractable, you will want to know how to wash between your prepuce and your shaft. This is an area you need to keep clean without washing forcefully.


answered Nov 06 '14 at 18:59

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edited Nov 06 '14 at 19:46

Masturbation is the self-sexual stimulation of the genitals for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm. The stimulation may involve hands, fingers, everyday objects, sex toys or combinations of these. Female masturbation, mutual manual stimulation of the genitals between partners, can be a substitute for sexual penetration.


answered Nov 15 '14 at 01:29

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