I really appreciate this venture call MenstruPedia to address women problems. And this time, I have come up with problem, seeking for expert gynecological solution.
Me and my partner are strongly committed to each other and are going to marry in near future (may be 6 months).
We both are much worried and in lot of tension because around 2 months back (6th July), we indulged in foreplay by playing with each other's private parts. However we refrained from having sex. We both had a doubt that sperm may have been transmitted through this activity because he was not sure if he had washed his hands properly or not before the act. And hence, he brought me an i-Pill which I consumed at around 24th-25th hour after act.
Now, after 2 days of consuming that i-pill, I started bleeding (like periods or may be it were periods itself) which lasted for around 4 days, started at around 8th July and ended at 12th July. To let you know, I just had periods 2-2.5 weeks before this bleeding.
We indulged in same kind of act after that bleeding for 2-3 times more, but this time being conscious about hygiene.
Our tension is, after that bleeding, I did not have periods. And it has been almost 2 months since then.
About my heath,
I have a problem of irregular periods and sometimes (once or twice in a year), I have periods after 2 months of the completion date of last period. I have some facial hair and red pimples spot on face skin. I sometimes feel weakness and deadness in hands/legs too. I do not generate sexual desire for my partner on myself, but get ready and actively participate if he demands (though we did not have sex).
Recently, for last 4-5 days, I am filling little more quantity of white discharge than regular in vagina (somewhat like it happens before periods) and some pain in legs and back too. But still there are no periods...
Our Questions with lot of tension :-
(1) What should I do because I do not have periods since last 2 months? (Though, 12 Sept, 2 months from last period completion is still near) (2) The bleeding that happened 2 months back on 8th July were periods? or else? (3) Am I pregnant? (4) If I am pregnant, what should I do to avoid this? What medicine should I take? (5) Should I check for pregnancy through pregnancy kit available in market? What the steps and precautions in that? (6) Should I consult gynecologist for this delay in periods? (7) What foods/medicine and exercise should I consume/do to avoid this problem of pregnancy and irregular periods (I am pure vegetarian)? (8) Will this problem result as a problem in future wanted pregnancy or infertility? (9) Are facial hair, pimples or weakness due to this problem?
Please reply ASAP as we both are in much tension. Expert gynecological advice is much more required, sought for and will be appreciated.
Thanks a lot in advance.
asked Sep 07 '13 at 02:58
After going through your problem, I would strongly advise that you should talk to your gynecologist. Only an in person consultation with a gynecologist can provide you all the answers on which you can trust and act on. Also I would say, get yourself diagnosed for PCOS(PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome).
You can read more about PCOS here: Infrequent Menstruation, PCOS
answered Sep 13 '13 at 13:08
I think you really need to do some reading as to how pregnancy occurrs, what kind of foreplay is safe/unlikely to cause pregnancy, and bone-up generally on issues concerning your body. It is extremely, utterly unlikely you would be pregnant through a little fiddling play, whether hands are washed or not after touching sperm. Your/his hands would need to be most likely coveted in, dripping with sperm and this would need to be inserted very deeply into the vagina as close as possible to the cervix for you to become pregnant from non-penetrative sex, and this would need to occur at your most fertile time 6-10d roughly after the last day of bleeding of your period. I'm not sure of the statistics, but I should imagine 99.99997pc of women would not get pregnant after the scenario you describe.
There is much good info in this site and on wikipedia as to irregular periods. Often it takes many years for periods to become regular, if ever. Medication, diet and general health all play a part in this. You may be lacking a nutrient or trace element or simply under stress, or may have an underlying condition causing irregular periods. If you are truly concerned, go buy a pregnancy test, pee on the stick and find out for sure. If you do not wish to have children right now, the quicker you find out, the more options you will have (I just read that you have done this...good good good!) Lastly, I truly hope you learn to enjoy your sex life - anticipating it with joy, 'generating desire for your partner within yourself' (you should not feel indecent for these feelings. If you love him and are committed to each other, it is healthy, normal and energising to desire your partner). If my partner 'demanded sex' and I did not desire him, it wouldn't happen. If my partner demanded sex full stop it wouldn't happen. You are not a man's plaything - you are a woman and deserve your own desires and to have dominion over your own body. It is your body - not his. Please think about this. It is so very important that you are master of your own body. If you choose to have sex/fiddle about, great, but it needs be a mutual choice, not simply his choice. Respect yourself, do some reading and research. Good luck with your health issues.
answered Oct 11 '13 at 08:39
Have you asked you doctor about PCOD? Poly cystic ovarian dis order, its very common these days.
As much as a lecture as this may sound, you should read up on the internet before indulging in these things. During foreplay, just avoid both of you being naked at the same time.
You probably do not understand the implications of getting pregnant. If its a normal pregnancy, even then there can be many complications while aborting, like excessive bleeding. Some doctors forget to give anti-biotics with the abortion pill, meaning your uterus can get so infected that you may turn sterile or it may have to be removed.
Even if the abortion is ok, it is a lot of stress for the uterus.
If your pregnancy is not normal, say it is ectopic, which believe me is not as uncommon as they say it is, it can be fatal, no kidding. Ectopic means that the embryo implanted itself outside the uterus. Surgical intervention is almost always required in this case, and if there is excessive damage to the tube, then your fallopian tube may have to be removed.
Your ability to have kids is affected by such instances, but more importantly your health is at stake with such carelessness.
I hope you know understand the gravity of the situation. Its completely ok to be sexually active, once you are legally mature, but not absent mindedly. I would advise you to go on other contraceptives besides the condom. Like vaginal rings, IUD, hormonal injections, Oral contraceptives. All have pros and cons, you will have to research and see what suits you best, and event then do not stop using condoms. Assuming you are not married, if something happens, however liberated you may be, things may get tough. Be sexually active, but be so in a healthy manner.
answered Nov 26 '13 at 14:55
I agree with much of Adya's answer regarding PCOS, although the Questioners prob may be infrequent periods for many reasons ~ she has not come back saying she has been diagnosed with PCOS.
My huge objection to Adya's answer is her advice of avoiding nakedness during sex, upon the assumption, I suppose, that this will prevent pregnancy. Pregnancy will only ever result after penetrative sex during the fertile few days of a woman's cycle. Being naked has nothing to do with it. You could both be clothed and still a pregnancy will result if penetrative sex at the right time is achieved. Becoming pregnant has nothing whatsoever to do with being clothed or naked.
Speaking of PCOS, many women with PCOS manage to achieve succesful and healthy pregnancies. Having PCOS (if indeed this is the case for the Questioner) may make it more difficult to become pregnant, but should not effect a healthy outcome with good gynecological care. I am pretty sure the incidence of ectopic pregnancy is the same in PCOS affected women as in the general (healthy) population, but I will pop back in if I find research to the contrary. Yes, ectopic pg's most often require surgical intervention, although new treatments are becoming available to treat it with medication if it is discovered very early (5wks) into pregnancy. This is still in the trial/final research stages and will hopefully become more available after the trials are finished.
answered Feb 27 '14 at 22:20