Require URGENT help regarding Periods and Pregnancy.

I think you really need to do some reading as to how pregnancy occurrs, what kind of foreplay is safe/unlikely to cause pregnancy, and bone-up generally on issues concerning your body. It is extremely, utterly unlikely you would be pregnant through a little fiddling play, whether hands are washed or not after touching sperm. Your/his hands would need to be most likely coveted in, dripping with sperm and this would need to be inserted very deeply into the vagina as close as possible to the cervix for you to become pregnant from non-penetrative sex, and this would need to occur at your most fertile time 6-10d roughly after the last day of bleeding of your period. I'm not sure of the statistics, but I should imagine 99.99997pc of women would not get pregnant after the scenario you describe.

There is much good info in this site and on wikipedia as to irregular periods. Often it takes many years for periods to become regular, if ever. Medication, diet and general health all play a part in this. You may be lacking a nutrient or trace element or simply under stress, or may have an underlying condition causing irregular periods. If you are truly concerned, go buy a pregnancy test, pee on the stick and find out for sure. If you do not wish to have children right now, the quicker you find out, the more options you will have (I just read that you have done this...good good good!) Lastly, I truly hope you learn to enjoy your sex life - anticipating it with joy, 'generating desire for your partner within yourself' (you should not feel indecent for these feelings. If you love him and are committed to each other, it is healthy, normal and energising to desire your partner). If my partner 'demanded sex' and I did not desire him, it wouldn't happen. If my partner demanded sex full stop it wouldn't happen. You are not a man's plaything - you are a woman and deserve your own desires and to have dominion over your own body. It is your body - not his. Please think about this. It is so very important that you are master of your own body. If you choose to have sex/fiddle about, great, but it needs be a mutual choice, not simply his choice. Respect yourself, do some reading and research. Good luck with your health issues.

Have you asked you doctor about PCOD? Poly cystic ovarian dis order, its very common these days.

As much as a lecture as this may sound, you should read up on the internet before indulging in these things. During foreplay, just avoid both of you being naked at the same time.

You probably do not understand the implications of getting pregnant. If its a normal pregnancy, even then there can be many complications while aborting, like excessive bleeding. Some doctors forget to give anti-biotics with the abortion pill, meaning your uterus can get so infected that you may turn sterile or it may have to be removed.

Even if the abortion is ok, it is a lot of stress for the uterus.

If your pregnancy is not normal, say it is ectopic, which believe me is not as uncommon as they say it is, it can be fatal, no kidding. Ectopic means that the embryo implanted itself outside the uterus. Surgical intervention is almost always required in this case, and if there is excessive damage to the tube, then your fallopian tube may have to be removed.

Your ability to have kids is affected by such instances, but more importantly your health is at stake with such carelessness.

I hope you know understand the gravity of the situation. Its completely ok to be sexually active, once you are legally mature, but not absent mindedly. I would advise you to go on other contraceptives besides the condom. Like vaginal rings, IUD, hormonal injections, Oral contraceptives. All have pros and cons, you will have to research and see what suits you best, and event then do not stop using condoms. Assuming you are not married, if something happens, however liberated you may be, things may get tough. Be sexually active, but be so in a healthy manner.

I agree with much of Adya's answer regarding PCOS, although the Questioners prob may be infrequent periods for many reasons ~ she has not come back saying she has been diagnosed with PCOS.

My huge objection to Adya's answer is her advice of avoiding nakedness during sex, upon the assumption, I suppose, that this will prevent pregnancy. Pregnancy will only ever result after penetrative sex during the fertile few days of a woman's cycle. Being naked has nothing to do with it. You could both be clothed and still a pregnancy will result if penetrative sex at the right time is achieved. Becoming pregnant has nothing whatsoever to do with being clothed or naked.

Speaking of PCOS, many women with PCOS manage to achieve succesful and healthy pregnancies. Having PCOS (if indeed this is the case for the Questioner) may make it more difficult to become pregnant, but should not effect a healthy outcome with good gynecological care. I am pretty sure the incidence of ectopic pregnancy is the same in PCOS affected women as in the general (healthy) population, but I will pop back in if I find research to the contrary. Yes, ectopic pg's most often require surgical intervention, although new treatments are becoming available to treat it with medication if it is discovered very early (5wks) into pregnancy. This is still in the trial/final research stages and will hopefully become more available after the trials are finished.